No one does relationship advice quite like STEVE. Here are five pieces of advice from the show to help deal with your ex:
Should You Stay Friends With Your Ex?
There’s no advice like Straight Talk advice, and this panel’s thoughts on staying friendly with an ex is no exception. So, is it ok to stay friends with your ex? This panel was split. Diann Valentine and Kimberly Caldwell-Harvey believe that once a relationship is done, it’s done. “If there are children involved… you should be able to co-parent… but, if there are no children involved, when we break up… I’m through with everybody,” says Diann.
Keri Hilson and Carrie Ann Inaba, on the other hand, believe that it’s ok to stay friends with an ex as long as everything is done in respect. “I think it’s ok to remain friends… as long as there’s no secret hangouts, no nighttime rendezvous,” Keri explains. As for Steve Harvey, he’s taking Diann and Kimberley’s side on this one: “We break up, we through.” And his male perspective adds an interesting twist. See for yourself.
The takeaway: If you feel that your friendship is the only thing you and your ex ever had going for you, then staying friends is fine, as long as your current beau is aware of the past and is comfortable with that decision. If not, it’s probably best to cut all ties and keep it that way.
Steve Harvey Gives Advice On Raising Kids With An Ex-Spouse
Coming from a blended family, Steve Harvey knows a thing or two on how to best raise children with an ex. Carli came to Steve Harvey, seeking advice on how to best co-parent with her ex who says everything has to be her way. They differ on everything, including what activities their children should be a part of. “When you force stuff on your children, it never works out,” Steve Harvey tells her.
The takeaway: Save the argument. Steve Harvey suggests putting your foot down when it comes to what the child wants to do.
How To Let Go Of Your Ex
Letting go of an ex can be difficult, but in order to fully move on with your life and relationships, it’s a must—even for this couple who had a dog together. This woman feels so bad for her ex that her and her current husband are allowing him to live with them and have for years! It sounds unbelievable because it is. You may always care for your ex, but that compassion shouldn’t get in the way of your new relationship. “Your compassion is misdirected… it’s going to cost you and Tony (the new husband),” says Kim Gravel.
The takeaway: In order to have a new, successful relationship, you have to let go of the old one and that means you need to stop feeling bad for your ex. And if you happen to have a pet with your ex, figure out a way to share your pet without it interfering with your new relationship.
If You're Getting Suggestive Texts From Your Ex...
What do you do if your married ex starts sending you intimate text messages? Do you tell his wife? Steve Harvey says that’s not your problem. “I recommend not saying anything, ‘cause that’s not your job,” Steve Harvey says, “We (men) never get away with it.” While you may think he’s getting away with his infidelity, Steve Harvey says that the effects of that man’s actions will start showing up in other ways—from their work to their relationships and beyond.
The takeaway: It isn’t your responsibility to tell on your ex—it’s not your problem. God will make sure he gets his. Continue to live your best life and leave that alone.
Can You Date A Friend’s Ex?
While this advice may not deal with your ex in particular, this is a situation that could easily come up and the Straight Talk panel feels pretty strongly about it. “That’s gonna be a hell no,” Keri Hilson answers, “You’re my friend! That’s a hell no!” Kimberly Caldwell-Harvey backs her up stating, “The trust is officially going to be altered.”
Diann Valentine and Carrie Ann Inaba, however, feel differently. “If she’s your friend and she happens to see it (love) in a dude that you no longer want, don’t hate on your girlfriend,” Diann tells the panel.
The takeaway: If you’re the type of woman who can’t stand the thought of your friend dating your ex, let your friends know that. And if you’re the type of woman who wants your friends to be happy, even if it’s with an ex, then let your friends know that, too. Either way, true friends will respect your feelings.
Consider your ex taken care of.